Where To Start....

Hmmm...where to start....WEEEELL...I am married to a soldier named Karr Stapleton :) Life as an Army wife is definitely interesting :) which is what i think my blogs will mostly be about since he is my life...but, before i get into any of that...let me start this out with where I stand as an Army wife.

I am not my husbands rank. I did not go thru the training nor the hardships that he has endured... therefore my husband is the badass not me. I'm just the lucky woman who gets to have his babies ;). But let me clarify that i understand that since our actions reflect on our husbands etc. that "unwritten rules" are applied  the higher ranked your husband is.

As an Army wife i believe we should put our husbands needs first and be understanding that they cannot do the same for us. Thats not to say that we have to wear a smile on our faces 24/7 and not cry about our husbands being gone, or suppress thoughts like " wow, we really got screwed" etc. I just think that all to often (and i'm guilty of this as well) that we forget that generally whatever hurt this lifestyle has brought on us wives...is just as bad for our men and then you add on the stresses of their jobs and i guarantee they have alot more on their plates then us. In saying all that I feel as an Army wife we need to try to be as supportive as we can and appear strong for our men, because we are undoubtedly their most important support system. 

A couple of pet peeves i've developed since becoming an Army wife are as follows...Wives and Husbands who believe they are temporarily single during deployments...Of course wives who are snobby to lower ranked wives...I HATE when wives say "hooah" or "put your big girl panties on" or "you knew what you were marrying into" let me just say there is no way to be fully prepared for this lifestyle k? anyways......next peeve...I am not one of those Army Wives that think no one outside the military can miss their husbands... I believe that missing your husband is missing your husband, civilian jobbed or military, when your loved one is away nothing can fill the void and the ache that comes with their absence...however... it does aggravate me when civilian wives tell me they completely understand what i'm going thru when my husband is deployed or gone doing something else dangerous because their husband is or has _______ fill in the blank. Because the fact of the matter is...unless your husband is gone for months at a time AND in mortal danger every time he goes on duty...o and you hardly get to communicate with him...you really don't completely understand what i'm going thru during those times.... ummm...O! another big one...anti-military U.S. Citizens. Ya'll make absolutely no sense to me!! (Westboro church congregation- i hope you all burn in hell) i don't think i need to elaborate on that one...pretty obvious...k...well i'm sure there is more but those are the main ones...and i think i covered all the major areas of where i stand on things as an Army Wife...so in closing.........

I can honestly say that i had no idea what i was marrying into, and i'm still learning and adjusting...But at the end of the day the one thing i am for sure about is that Karr is worth every tear, every anxiety attack and every lonely night.